Unemployment in the United States has climbed to 7.6% and most of us have friends and family who have lost jobs in the recent months. Those of us who are fully employed are likely to be worried about our own job security and how much worse things are likely to get before a recovery begins. We're doing more work with fewer resources. All of this can create stress within the employer-employee relationship that is not only trying for the individuals involved, but also counterproductive to the success of the organizations they work for.
As Valentine's Day approaches, I'm reflecting on some of the parallels between successful personal and work relationships. Specifically, in the current rotten economy, what lessons about getting through tough times in the workplace can be learned from successful romantic partnerships ?
I've been happily married to the same man for 23 years. Here are a few tips I've learned about building that long term trust relationship that serve me equally well at work:
Communication is important - but know when to stop
Letting it all hang out when you're angry or frustrated with your partner can be disastrous, but the love of your life will probably forgive you. Being emotional in communicating your frustration about extra work and diminished resources with a boss who's probably similarly stressed probably won't help your cause.
Impact does not equal intent
Your partner didn't mean to suggest that his time is more important than yours when he left the dishes in the sink last night. Your colleague in another department who caused you extra hours of work by waiting until the last minute to involve you in a project probably didn't do so with the specific goal of making you miserable. She's probably doing her best to meet challenging deadlines with limited resources as well.
Be tough on the problems, not on the people
This technique requires a little inner Zen. When you are consumed with worry about how an issue affects you personally, you will be less effective at resolving conflicts. Distance yourself from your immediate emotions about the topic and work together with your colleagues to attack the problem, not each other.
Do more than your fair share
There is no perfect 50-50 balance in romance or at work. Some days you have to give more than you get in order to achieve your long term goals.
Resilience is key
We all know that change is constant and inevitable. That doesn't mean we like it. Those who prevail in the survival of the fittest are those who adapt to changes in their environment and don't dwell on what used to be.
What lessons from home do you bring to work?
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